My Tweets on Psychotherapy and Mental Health

Having adversities in life is reality.

We need to vigorously change our thinking,

emotions and behaviours positively while coping with life.

Public still associate someone that has
hallucination and delusion with demonic possession.

Psychoeducation on Schizophrenia is essential.

Struggle with suicidal thoughts during and/or after
a divorce can happened to both female and male clients.

Need to stay neutral while discussing religious faith with client.

Having knowledge on comparative religion is important.

Motivation for change must come from within oneself –

not merely to please someone else

Some people are confused about detachment and apathy.

Practicing detachment will not lack a sense of meaning or purpose in life.

Therapy needs a haven but do not expect

the process has no discomfort and it is painless.

If you do, you are probably at the wrong place.

Seeking therapy is not shameful but not doing so may end up in regret.

When general public is unable to differentiate

between pseudoscience and genuine treatment,

we will have a long way to go and plenty of work to do.

Nothing is more rewarding than client is able to walk out of the misery,

regained confidence and have the courage to move on.

Instil change in client is an objective.

And to achieve that,

therapist must not lose the focus on therapeutic relationship.

The less fortunate should not be deprived from therapy,

we should reach out to them whenever possible.

It is a crucial moment of their lives.

Counselling is not about promoting false sense of hope,

It is about reality check and

yes it may cause discomfort to client.

Do it with empathy.

It is not the responsibility of the therapist to change the client's faith.
This is deemed as unethical & unprofessional practice.

True empathy does not come from role-play, supervision
and academic qualification but with scars from life experience.

Sense of hopelessness:
when there is no means to live & no meaning to live for.
Frankl explored meaning of life & Yalom explored about death.

Expecting life to be always hassle-free and without adversities,
people holding such belief is contributing to one's cognitive distortions.

Rational Thoughts:
Failed relationship does not foreshadow future failed relationships and

it may not reflect one's character or overall worth.

Every attempt to suicide,

it carries a message to be heard.

It is seeking HELP.

A Therapist who is overly empathic,

unable to refute the toxic beliefs is causing harm

to client because this will cloud reasoning ability.

Turning therapy into a romantic/sexual relationship harms clients and

robs them from psychological help that they are seeking for treatment.

Clients may be seeking companion/looking for affection.

But it is not for therapist to fulfill that role.

It is an abuse of power.

Psychotherapy is primarily a unique relationship between

two people unlike family, friends or lovers.

Assuming it as anything is detrimental.

Psychotherapy cannot remove painful past experience.

But it provides compassion and support for

clients to accept the past without embitterment.

I leave 3 things outside the therapy room namely;

obsession with mood check, 
overly empathetic and unrealistic positivism.

My Tweets

Politics

When someone promotes a long term vision and it did not materialize, it is time to wake up from the state of euphoria. Stop taking the Ecstasy.

I have Low Frustration Tolerance (LFT) especially with smug, arrogant and high-handed politicians. Now I begin to appreciate about this REBT concept. Politicians love to adopt strategy when they cannot convince, they confuse! Using smear tactic on other's integrity is utterly distasteful. When someone is in autosuggestion and self delusion, it is in a severe state of cognitive distortion. Seriously, SNAP OUT OUT IT! Is there media 'neutrality' in its true sense? If yes, how was it achieved? Perhaps this is just another ideology of utopia. Skepticism and Cynicism A skeptic adopts intellectual caution to question the validity of certain claims. A cynic simply disbelieves and disinterested in everything. Existentialism Loneliness is not about having people around you; it is a state of mind whether one can count on anyone in the uncertain world.

We are taught to set objective for career.
I believe we should set meaning in our job. When we have passion, 
we will make it as life career.

Knowledge A true master will be willing to teach, exchange techniques and respect other schools of thought. This applies to martial arts & psychotherapy. Relationship Guys when you have an infatuation (i.e. an instant, powerful attraction for a woman whom you knows little), it is anima projection. When one party is ambivalent about the relationship, 
the other one in love will suffer as a result. 
There is no interconnection between the two. Many things can kill relationship especially being ambiguous in communication and engaged in mind reading. Be clear because people do not communicate in Telepathy. Many cannot relate contract with relationship. There are many implied terms we imposed on other partner and setting up boundaries unconsciously.

Friendship

How do we tell someone is our true friend among acquaintances. When we are in difficult times. We know our friends when we are down in life. Critical Thinking and Reason

Critical thinking must be guided by
knowledge and evidences that fit reality, 
not based on one's emotion, 
subjective assumptions and beliefs.

Anyone who has lack of respect for reason, will have little knowledge. 
The person who dismissed reason will not be looking for flaws in logic.

Chinese Tweets 当一个人对事物的认知和了解不足时, 可以谦虚的请教, 也可以多听取意见. 但是主观认定自己在高位即权威时;坚持己见, 只会显出自己的无知和幼稚. 千万不要尝试改变此人, 因为但他没有台阶下时, 他会因此憎恨你. 子曰： 可以言，而不與之言，失人； 不可以言，而與之言，失言. 智者不失人，亦不失言.

一个教授如果可以有人格缺陷, 欺师灭祖的话, 如何为人师表?
不应该跟这种人学习任何的知识和技能. 
他应该被唾弃.

信仰须要建立在感性和理性上. 只建立在感性上而没有经过思考, 
信仰变成愚痴和盲从. 假如只建立在理性上而无有情感, 
信仰就便成傲慢和缺乏宗教情操.